Goddess Revolution #1 Body Confidence

It’s no secret that I battle with body confidence.

Body Confidence

Having an auto-immune disease, it’s not easy to not feel betrayed by your body. It is something that I’m trying to get over. And I have made a point to remind myself that this body (ill or not) is mine, and will be mine till the day I die. So I want to start loving every part of it. From my boobs and butt to the more hardcore stuff, like all the scars too. Because every scar, big or small, tells a story of what I’ve been through and how far I have come. Loving the parts of you that are considered unconventional or unattractive is undoubtedly an act of rebellion. You are not meant to be perfect. There is something so beautiful about a lady that loves herself. And I’m lucky enough to have said bad-ass girls as my friends who inspire me each and every day. There is beauty in being carefree enough to embrace the same things society told you not to.

So I asked my girls what they loved about their bodies, what gives them confidence and why every woman should embrace her body… Here’s what they had to say.

 

Lizle Van Der Westhuizen

WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR BODY?

I appreciate my back. It’s out of sight most of the time hahaha! Honestly, I would have to admit that I think overall I am not too badly built. I can gain weight fast and also lose the weight just as fast.

WHAT GIVES YOU THAT EXTRA BOOST OF CONFIDENCE?

Looking neat and well dressed. Along with some makeup. Confidence for me means going into a room and just being myself. Good looking hair and a smile goes a long way along with inner strength to say how you feel no matter who or what you need to face.

WHY SHOULD MORE WOMEN LOVE THE BODIES THEY ARE IN?

Loving yourself first means you are able to love others and accept all their mistakes. Hating your body can be a temporary thing. All women of all sizes have the ability to change their appearance, the only thing that really needs to be changed is the mind and willpower. Starting a diet without willpower is bound to fail and this statement goes parallel with all addictions and difficulties that women have to deal with. It’s harder to judge another person once you place yourself in their shoes.

 

Tiffany Prinsloo 

WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR BODY, AND WHY?

Definitely my eyes and hair. I’m lucky I have really big eyes and long lashes and my hair does what I want it to do. Blessed.

WHAT GIVES YOU THAT EXTRA BOOST OF CONFIDENCE?

Music. Listening to powerful women like Beyonce or Fergie some of their music make me feel fierce… haha!

Gym. Walking out the gym after just killing a workout, lifts my spirit instantly.

WHY SHOULD MORE WOMEN LOVE THE BODIES THEY ARE IN?

It’s the only one you have, you can’t swop it or trade it, you have to learn to love who you are and be comfortable in your own skin. How boring would the world be if we were all the same…

 

 

Tanya McGeer

WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR BODY, AND WHY?

This is quite a difficult question to answer. I think there are some women, like myself, who find it difficult to say what they like, or in this case, love about their bodies. The one thing I do like about myself is my hair. I have curly hair so I can do whatever I like with it. If I want to make a messy bun – yay, if I want to braid it – why not, if I want to straighten it – go right ahead. My hair is very loyal! It will never let me down!

WHAT GIVES YOU THAT EXTRA BOOST OF CONFIDENCE?

The different types of clothes that I wear. I’m not much of a makeup lover, but if I feel good about what I have on that day it boosts my confidence quite a lot!

WHY SHOULD MORE WOMEN LOVE THE BODIES THEY ARE IN?

The thing is, women are made to believe that they are not allowed to say: “I am beautiful”, otherwise you are seen as vain or self-absorbed. Society has made us believe to only see the negative things about our bodies and personalities, in general. It’s a difficult thing to tell somebody to love the body that they are in because I think everyone, male or female, has something that they wish to change about themselves. The important thing is: one should feel comfortable in the body that one is born in. That is quite a tall order. But, to be comfortable in your body – to love your body, you should accept the person you are with all of its flaws and imperfections. Only then will you be truly happy!

 

Wanda Koekemoer

WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR BODY, AND WHY?

I love the fact that I’ve made peace with it. Having to walk naked past a mirror every day for a month seems to soften the eyes. Now I just do maintenance for my old age, bit of pilates here, bit of mountain biking there …(some sushi..Ed’s diner burgers….pizza….*thought bubble*)

WHAT GIVES YOU THAT EXTRA BOOST OF CONFIDENCE?

I have a big bear that constantly tells me I’m beautiful, or that the outfit I chose/ hairdo looks good on me. (Lack of confidence makes me stare at him in disbelief, but I’m happy that he feels that way about me. It’s slowly building my confidence)

WHY SHOULD MORE WOMEN LOVE THE BODIES THEY ARE IN?

Because..who cares, everyone is different. Everyone has something unique to them. There is more to you than your body..unless you’re a skinny model (I’m stereotyping..sorry :P). As long as you have people in your life that compliment and support you (each other), who cares what the rest of the world thinks. They probably have lots of things hidden in their closets which they should rather deal with instead of wasting their time gossiping about other people’s bodies.

Sune Bissett

WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR BODY, AND WHY?

My lips. Like many young women, I’ve struggled with body confidence issues, so I decided to focus on my stronger features instead.I love the shape of my lips.

WHAT GIVES YOU THAT EXTRA BOOST OF CONFIDENCE?

The amazing women in my life. We support each other in many ways, especially when we need reminders that we are not as simple as our reflection or the number on the scale. It’s easier said than done, but the love and support of a dear friend do wonders. I also love dressing up wearing lots of perfume and lipstick. It’s just something that makes me feel good

WHY SHOULD MORE WOMEN LOVE THE BODIES THEY ARE IN?

I am almost 24 and the struggle continues. Often I have to remind myself that being happy and healthy is the only thing that matters. I am not 100% there yet, but I plan to be. Constantly comparing yourself to supermodels and hating your body is very exhausting. Learn to love your body and set the example for others.

“Let me ask you something, in all the years that you have…undressed in front of a gentleman has he ever asked you to leave? Has he ever walked out and left? No? It’s because he doesn’t care! He’s in a room with a naked girl, he just won the lottery. I am so tired of saying no, waking up in the morning and recalling every single thing I ate the day before, counting every calorie I consumed so I know just how much self-loathing to take into the shower. I’m going for it. I have no interest in being obese, I’m just through with the guilt. So this is what I’m going to do, I’m going to finish this pizza, and then we are going to go watch the soccer game, and tomorrow we are going to go on a little date and buy ourselves some bigger jeans.” –Elizabeth Gilbert – Eat, Pray, Love

 

Madelein Ackermann

WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR BODY, AND WHY?

To be honest, I’m not quite sure. I’ve always struggled with body confidence too! Being the “chubby” friend means you’re always wishing you were prettier and skinnier…like all your hot skinny friends…

But it’s my body, no one else’s. It’s healthy and everything works as it should…except my brain…sometimes it takes weird twists and turns. I’ve got pretty green eyes and always get complimented on them.

WHAT GIVES YOU THAT EXTRA BOOST OF CONFIDENCE?

Feeling pretty…wearing a new scarf, my favourite perfume or trying a new hairstyle.

WHY SHOULD MORE WOMEN LOVE THE BODIES THEY ARE IN?

Work with what you’ve got, we can’t trade in our bodies for a newer model. We are wonderfully and fearfully made, believe it!

 

Nadine Conradie

WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR BODY, AND WHY?

The thing I love most about my body would most definitely have to be my cesarean scar. After a routine checkup with my gynecologist in December 2015 I was informed that I have high severity abnormal cells. Being a healthy 28 year old this was not something that I was expecting at all. In January 2016 I had to undergo an operation where they were going to remove the abnormal cells, however, after the operation, the gynecologist informed me that she was unable to remove all the cells. As if that wasn’t enough, I was told that if the abnormal cells are still there by December 2016 they would need to do a full hysterectomy as the abnormal cells would turn into cancer. This meant, if I ever wanted kids, I had to do it now. Even though I was not married, I was in a loving relationship with someone who wanted kids just as much as I did and we didn’t even think twice. We knew that we were racing against time and immediately started trying. After about a month our prayers were answered when I learned that I was pregnant. I got a lot of flack from a lot of people as I was not married, but to this day, I will do it all again. I have been blessed with a beautiful baby boy, and no matter how many scars, stretch marks and extra weight I gained, I would do it all again in a heartbeat. The scar that I have that most people would consider hideous or disgusting is a constant reminder of everything that has happened and how God has blessed me beyond measure.

WHAT GIVES YOU THAT EXTRA BOOST OF CONFIDENCE?

Hearing the man of my dreams tell me that I look beautiful while I am sitting on the couch with my hair in a bun and no makeup really makes me feel good. I have to admit that a nice pair of stiletto’s also does the trick. No matter how bad my day is going, if I put on a pair of high heels I immediately feel prettier, more powerful and ready to take on whatever life throws at me.

WHY SHOULD MORE WOMEN LOVE THE BODIES THEY ARE IN?

Social media paints this picture of what we should look like to be beautiful but I call bullshit. If we take a second, and turn to the important people in our lives we will see that we are perfect the way we are. I have spent thousands on extensions, beauty procedures, makeup and skin care and all types of stuff seen on social media as I also wanted to be considered beautiful, when all along, my significant other considered me beautiful without any of those things. Women come in all different shapes and sizes and in my eyes, any women, no matter her race, age, weight or height is beautiful. We just need to learn to embrace who we are.

 

 

Mieke Botha

WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR BODY, AND WHY?

My eyes most definitely.

They have always been the part of me that helped me cope with being an extremely self-conscious person, due to having rosacea. Making eye contact and holding my head up in public was always a thing that I had to pay extra special attention to, especially when listening to people or friends otherwise I would come across as rude or uninterested. I hated people coming close to me or invading my personal space because that meant that they could see my face more clearly. But… After realizing that no matter with what skin dilemma I wake up with, I do have beautiful eyes, and it really helped me cope with being more confident and sociable, knowing that there still is something to brighten up my face. They are a daily reminder to me, that even though we don’t always feel beautiful, it is our inner beauty which will still shine through. After all, the eyes are the windows to the soul.

WHAT GIVES YOU THAT EXTRA BOOST OF CONFIDENCE?

A thing that has always given me that extra boost is feeling extremely fresh and wearing perfume. I have always admired people with clean hair and nails, good breath, and smells great. Therefore it always makes me feel comfortable and confident when I just had my nails done, my hair is looking healthy and shiny, and I’m wearing my favorite perfume (DKNY).

WHY SHOULD MORE WOMEN LOVE THE BODIES THEY ARE IN?

I know that a lot of people say this on a daily basis, but I believe that more women should be comfortable in their own skin and bodies because it has become such a challenge especially in today’s time with advertisement and the internet. It is such a great motivator and example for me when I see a woman being completely comfortable with all her imperfections. She could be overweight, underweight, she might have terrible acne or no hair. It’s as if in that moment when they aren’t aware of themselves or overly focused on their flaws, other people also pay less attention to her flaws and what she’s actually saying. It is much easier said than done, but I learned through experience that faking it till you make it is something that can help you learn to feel more comfortable after realizing that it’s not so bad to be your vulnerable self and that other people aren’t as judgemental and terrible as we are towards ourselves. You will also immediately see a difference in how others start to treat you, not only because you look prettier, but also when you become more vulnerable and comfortable with yourself, others automatically start to become more comfortable around you as well. I am always so thankful to see other women being comfortable in their bodies, despite their flaws, because it shows me that I can also look beautiful without feeling the need to cover everything up.

 

Jacqueline Bosch

WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT YOUR BODY, AND WHY?

Well if you see me, you will think I’m a perfect number… but yes like every girl, there is always something I find wrong with my body… Well, that is what every girl really thinks… But not every man thinks that.  Even if my body is so skinny and looks pretty… it’s not always the coolest thing because when you start buying close and you release that you (at the age of 30) still need to buy clothes from the kiddies section at department stores, it’s kind of depressing…. well the question is still what I love about my body… I must say it must be my stomach and my hair… Mostly my hair… I can change the colour and whatever colour I change it to I still look pretty… for myself.

WHAT GIVES YOU THAT EXTRA BOOST OF CONFIDENCE?

When someone gives you a compliment, that’s when I get that extra boost of confidence… a positive word is always good for your soul.

 

After reading this, how can you not feel inspired? This certainly inspired me!

I decided that GODDESS REVOLUTION will be a monthly feature, where we will discuss some of the hardcore issues women face today and answer some fun questions too. I hope you enjoy it just as much as I do.

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Body Confidence / Confidence / Health / Mental health / Love your body / no body shaming